Myths and Misconceptions About Surrogacy: Separating Fact from Fiction
- Carlos Diaz
- Aug 15, 2024
- 5 min read
Updated: Aug 21, 2024
Surrogacy is an incredible journey toward building a family, but it’s also a path surrounded by myths and misconceptions. These misunderstandings can create unnecessary worry and confusion for those considering this option. At Surrogenics, we believe in providing clear, honest information to help you make informed decisions. Let’s explore some of the most common myths about surrogacy and uncover the truth behind them.

Myth 1: “Surrogates Do It Just for the Money”
Fact: While surrogates are compensated for their time, commitment, and the physical demands of pregnancy, money is rarely their primary motivation. Most surrogates are driven by the desire to help others experience the joy of parenthood. They often have a deep sense of empathy and a genuine wish to make a difference in the lives of intended parents. The financial aspect is important, but the emotional fulfillment and connection they feel are what truly motivate them.
Myth 2: “Surrogates Might Want to Keep the Baby”
Fact: This is a common fear, but it’s far from the truth. Surrogates are carefully screened and fully aware of their role in the process. They understand from the outset that the child they are carrying is not their own. Legal agreements are put in place to protect the rights of all parties involved, ensuring that the intended parents are recognized as the child’s legal guardians from birth. Surrogates are committed to helping others build their families, not to expanding their own.
Myth 3: “Only Wealthy People Can Afford Surrogacy”
Fact: While surrogacy can be a significant financial investment, it’s not exclusive to the wealthy. Many intended parents come from various financial backgrounds and use a combination of savings, loans, and payment plans to make surrogacy accessible. Additionally, programs like Surrogenics’ price match assurance and flexible payment options help make the process more affordable. The dream of parenthood should not be limited by financial barriers, and there are ways to manage the costs effectively.
Myth 4: “Surrogacy is Only for Celebrities and High-Profile Individuals”
Fact: Surrogacy is for anyone who dreams of building a family, regardless of fame or social status. While it’s true that some celebrities have chosen surrogacy, this option is available to many, including couples struggling with infertility, same-sex couples, and single parents. At Surrogenics, we work with people from all walks of life, helping them navigate the surrogacy journey with compassion and care.
Myth 5: “The Surrogacy Process is Too Complicated and Stressful”
Fact: While surrogacy involves multiple steps and legal considerations, the process is designed to be manageable and well-organized. With the right agency guiding you, the journey can be smooth and even enjoyable. At Surrogenics, we handle the complexities—from legal agreements to medical appointments—allowing you to focus on the joy of preparing for your new family member. Our dedicated support team is with you every step of the way, reducing stress and ensuring a positive experience.
Myth 6: “Surrogacy is a Last Resort”
Fact: Surrogacy is one of many paths to parenthood and is often chosen not as a last resort, but as the best option for a specific family’s needs. Whether due to medical reasons, previous unsuccessful fertility treatments, or the unique needs of same-sex couples, surrogacy can be a proactive, empowering choice. It’s a well-considered decision that reflects hope, love, and the commitment to building a family.
Myth 7: “All Surrogacy Agencies Are the Same”
Fact: Surrogacy agencies vary widely in their approach, expertise, and level of care. Choosing the right agency is crucial to a successful and positive experience. At Surrogenics, we pride ourselves on our boutique approach, providing personalized care tailored to each family’s unique journey. Our comprehensive services, ethical standards, and deep commitment to our clients set us apart. Not every agency offers the same level of dedication or expertise, so it’s essential to do your research and select a partner that aligns with your values.
Myth 8: “Surrogacy Is Against Certain Cultural or Religious Beliefs”
Fact: While surrogacy can be viewed differently across cultures and religions, it’s important to note that every journey is personal. For those whose beliefs may be in question, there are often ways to navigate surrogacy in alignment with their values. Surrogenics ensures that ethical standards are met while respecting diverse cultural perspectives. Many families from various religious backgrounds have successfully and joyfully grown through surrogacy, guided by what feels right for them.
Myth 9: “Surrogacy is Unnatural or Unethical”
Fact: Surrogacy is built on a foundation of ethics and care, and rigorous screening ensures that everyone involved is fully committed and informed. Far from being "unnatural," surrogacy is a compassionate process where modern science meets deep human empathy. The focus is always on the well-being of the surrogate, intended parents, and the child. At Surrogenics, ethical practices are at the core of everything we do, from surrogate selection to legal agreements that protect everyone involved.
Myth 10: “Surrogacy Will Lead to Conflicts Between the Surrogate and the Intended Parents”
Fact: A well-structured surrogacy journey, guided by clear communication and respect, rarely leads to conflict. The process is designed to build trust and foster a positive relationship between the surrogate and the intended parents. Clear legal agreements and open channels of communication help prevent misunderstandings. At Surrogenics, we emphasize compatibility and shared values from the start, setting the foundation for a smooth and harmonious journey.
Myth 11: “People Will Judge You for Choosing Surrogacy”
Fact: While surrogacy can be misunderstood by some, many families are met with overwhelming support when they share their surrogacy journey. In fact, as awareness grows, more people are embracing surrogacy as a beautiful and legitimate path to parenthood. Whether you choose to be open about your journey or keep it private, Surrogenics is here to support you every step of the way, helping you navigate any concerns with confidence and grace.
Myth 12: “Surrogacy Is Exploitative”
Fact: Ethical surrogacy ensures that everyone involved is respected, informed, and empowered. Surrogates are not exploited but valued for their incredible role in helping create families. They receive fair compensation and are supported emotionally, medically, and legally throughout the process. At Surrogenics, we work with surrogates who are motivated by a deep desire to help others, and we maintain the highest ethical standards to protect their well-being and ensure a positive experience for all parties.
Myth 13: “Surrogacy Results Are Uncertain”
Fact: While surrogacy outcomes are not guaranteed, advances in medical science and the careful selection of surrogates and donors greatly improve the chances of success. Programs like Surrogenics’ Baby Guaranteed Fixed Cost programs offer peace of mind with clear outcomes and unlimited attempts until the birth of your baby. This kind of assurance is a powerful way to reduce uncertainty and ensure that your dream of parenthood is realized.
Myth 14: “Surrogacy is Too Complicated for Cross-Border Arrangements”
Fact: International surrogacy is more straightforward than it might seem, especially with the right agency. Surrogenics specializes in cross-border surrogacy, with seamless coordination between countries, transparent banking processes, and clear legal guidance. With our experience, you can expect a well-coordinated journey that makes international surrogacy accessible and secure.
Surrogacy is a beautiful and life-changing journey, but it’s important to separate fact from fiction. By debunking these myths, we hope to provide clarity and peace of mind as you explore this path to parenthood. At Surrogenics, we’re here to guide you with honesty, compassion, and the support you need to make informed decisions. If you have any questions or concerns, don’t hesitate to reach out—let’s make your dream of building a family a reality.
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