How to Bond with Your Baby During a Surrogacy Pregnancy
- Carlos Diaz
- Aug 15, 2024
- 4 min read
Updated: Aug 21, 2024
Surrogacy is a unique and beautiful way to build a family, but it can feel challenging for intended parents who want to create a strong bond with their baby during pregnancy. While you might not be carrying your child, there are still plenty of meaningful ways to connect with your baby before birth. At Surrogenics, we understand how important it is to feel involved and emotionally connected every step of the way. Here are some tips and activities to help you build that bond, even from afar.
1. Share Your Voice: Reading and Singing to Your Baby
Around the fourth month of pregnancy, your baby’s sense of hearing begins to develop, making it the perfect time to start reading, singing, or simply talking to them. You can record yourself reading a favorite children’s book, singing a lullaby, or telling them how much you’re looking forward to their arrival. Your surrogate can play these recordings regularly, allowing your baby to become familiar with your voice, creating a sense of connection that begins in the womb.
2. Send Audio Messages to Your Surrogate Through Our Portal
In addition to pre-recorded messages, consider sending short, personal audio messages to your surrogate through our portal. Whether it’s a simple “Good morning” message, words of encouragement, or an update on your day, these messages can be played to your baby whenever the surrogate feels it’s a good moment. Hearing your voice consistently helps build familiarity, allowing your baby to recognize you after birth.
3. Participate in Ultrasounds and Milestone Moments
Even if you can’t always be present for every appointment, technology makes it easier to stay involved. Whenever possible, join ultrasound sessions via video calls, or rely on the consistent sharing of reports and photos of these precious moments. Seeing your baby’s development and hearing the heartbeat are significant experiences that help strengthen your connection.
4. Create a Personalized Playlist
Music is a powerful way to communicate emotions, and creating a playlist specifically for your baby can be a touching way to connect. Choose songs that are meaningful to you or tracks that you’d like to introduce to your child early on. You can send this playlist to your surrogate through our portal, who can play it during quiet moments. Over time, your baby will start associating those songs with comfort and familiarity.
5. Share Your Hopes and Dreams for Your Baby
Take some time to reflect on your hopes and dreams for your baby’s future, and record these thoughts as audio messages or write them in a journal. Sharing your aspirations and love, even before birth, can create a powerful connection. These messages can be shared with your surrogate, who can read them aloud during peaceful moments. This activity reinforces your role as a loving parent and lets your baby feel surrounded by positive energy.
6. Engage Through Our Portal
Send personalized care packages, including items like a soft toy or a blanket meant for the baby, through our portal. These thoughtful gifts will be kept close to your surrogate until it’s time to pass them on to you. This gesture builds a sense of shared purpose and connection, making the journey feel even more collaborative and special.
7. Stay Consistent in Communication
Consistency is key in building a bond. Regular check-ins with your surrogate, whether through video calls, messages, or updates via our portal, help maintain a steady connection. This consistency not only helps you stay informed but also allows your baby to hear your voice regularly, fostering familiarity. Staying actively engaged throughout the pregnancy ensures that, even from a distance, you’re a constant presence in your baby’s life.
8. Embrace Virtual Bonding Activities
In today’s digital world, virtual interactions are more powerful than ever. Consider planning virtual activities, like reading stories live or playing your baby’s favorite playlist during video calls. You can even create virtual scrapbooks or memory boards, capturing moments throughout the pregnancy that you’ll one day share with your child. These activities bridge the gap and help you feel more involved.
9. Be Present for the Birth and Bond Skin-to-Skin
One of the most meaningful ways to bond is by being present when your baby enters the world. Plan to be at the hospital during the birth and engage in immediate skin-to-skin contact, which is a powerful way to begin your connection with your baby. This critical moment solidifies the emotional ties you’ve been nurturing throughout the pregnancy and allows you to start bonding immediately.
Final Thoughts: Building a Strong Connection, One Step at a Time
Bonding with your baby during a surrogacy pregnancy might be different, but it’s no less profound. With a bit of creativity, intention, and consistency, you can establish a strong emotional connection that carries through the pregnancy and beyond. At Surrogenics, we’re here to support your journey, ensuring that every step feels personal and fulfilling as you prepare to welcome your little one into the world.
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